Hanging with a bad crowd
July 4, 2018
My teenagers friends seem like they are a bad influence – What to do?
This can be very tricky for parents, as we’re reluctant to get ourselves too involved with who our children are friends with and as they turn into young adults they more often than not will not let you. We want to give them their own freedom but not so much that they make bad choices that may have a long term impact on their lives.
As parents we need to be cautious that we don’t prejudge our kids friends and we need to be very sure the actual influence these friends are going to have on your teenager. As parents we need to trust that our children have enough mental strength to resist all the external pressures but we also need to make sure that our children are protected and safe. Often when we approach the conversation about friends we get faced with rebellion and are told to back off. As a parent it is important to:
- Sit down with your child and outline your fundamental rules as a parent
- What time they should be home at
- That they must answer phone at all times
- That they must let you who they are with
- Both friends parents should agree before sleep overs
- They should have homework done before they are allowed go out. Etc.
Don’t forget these are your rules, so you need to set them!
- You should encourage your child to make up their own minds so that they can recognise bad influences and that they know when ignore them. It’s important they know to respect others and themselves.
- Continuously work on your relationship with your teenager. Conflict between parents and teenagers during these formative years is common but you should take every opportunity to spend quality time with them so that you can keep the lines of communication open..